For anything so overdone is from the purpose of playing,
whose end, both at the first and now, was and is to hold,
as ’twere, the mirror up to nature,
to show virtue her own feature,
scorn her own image,
and the very age and body of the time his form and pressure.
Hamlet: Act 3, Scene 2
He had written a play that won him the Pulitizer Prize in Fiction.
Yet, the broken mirror of reality, bedeviled him and beguiled him.
She had become one of the most famous actresses of the age.
Yet, the broken mirror of reality, bedeviled her and beguiled her.
Make-believe and Playing are simpler than Reality. And they can serve as a safe haven for the Four Temperaments.
What’s that you say, Mrs. Robinson
Joltin’ Joe has left and gone away
“She was a whirling light to me then, all paradox and enticing mystery, street-tough one moment, then lifted by a lyrical and poetic sensitivity that few retain past early adolescence.” — Arthur Miller.
I think it’s a mistake to ever look for hope outside of one’s self. — Arthur Miller
Arthur Asher Miller, Counselor Idealist, (October 17, 1915 – February 10, 2005) was an American playwright and essayist. He was a prominent figure in American theatre, writing dramas that include plays such as All My Sons (1947), Death of a Salesman (1949), The Crucible (1953) and A View from the Bridge (one-act, 1955; revised two-act, 1956), as well as the film The Misfits (1961).
Miller was often in the public eye, particularly during the late 1940s, 1950s and early 1960s, a period during which he testified before the House Un-American Activities Committee, received the Pulitzer Prize for Drama, and was married to Marilyn Monroe. In 2002 he received the Prince of Asturias Award and in 2003 the Jerusalem Prize. [Wikipedia, revised]
Idealists who attempt to make their loved ones live up to their ideals are sooner or later faced with disillusionment in their relationships. Although many Idealists are reluctant to admit it, such romantic projection — and such disillusionment — are most often a problem in cases where there is a strong sexual attraction. [Please Understand Me II]
“Most marriages, after all, are conspiracies to deny the dark and confirm the light.” — Arthur Miller
‘The Deepest Paradoxes’
”I was interested, as a student at the University of Michigan, in the way the Bible tells stories,” he says. ”What we take away from the Bible may seem like characters – Abraham and Isaac, Bathsheba and David – but really, they’re psychic situations. That kind of storytelling was always fantastic to me. And it’s the same thing with the Greeks. Look at Oedipus – we don’t know much about him, apart from his situation, but his story bears in itself the deepest paradoxes in the most adept shorthand.”
Miller wrote in his diary that he was “disappointed” with the world’s most adored sex symbol and sometimes felt embarrassed by her in front of his friends.
Monroe discovered his diary and read it while they were in England. She recorded her anguish in a poem in which she appeared to call the playwright a “peaceful monster” after finding the entry during their 1956 summer stay in England.
“Did you ever begin Ulysses? Did you ever finish it? Marilyn Monroe did both. She took great pains to be photographed reading or holding a book — insistence born not out of vain affectation but of a genuine love of literature. Her personal library contained four hundred books, including classics like Dostoyevsky and Milton, and modern staples like Hemingway and Kerouac. While she wasn’t shooting, she was taking literature and history night classes at UCLA.”
I am of both of your directions
Somehow remaining hanging downward
but strong as a cobweb in the
wind — I exist more with the cold glistening frost.
But my beaded rays have the colors I’ve
seen in a painting
s — ah life they
have cheated you
— Marilyn Monroe’s Private Notes
She had been in foster care most of her childhood. She wasn’t wanted, her mother was too unreliable to take care of her. She never finished high school. She, Norma Jean Baker, was convinced to marry young for that way her guardians could go to Florida without her.
“Do I look happy? I should — for I was a child nobody wanted. A lonely girl with a dream — who awakened to find that dream come true. I am Marilyn Monroe. Read my Cinderella story.”
As her first husband, James Dougherty, a Guardian, went overseas as a Merchant Marine in World War II, Norma Jeane Baker, worked in a factory.
Guardians can have a lot of fun with their friends, but they are quite serious about their duties and responsibilities. Guardians take pride in being dependable and trustworthy; if there’s a job to be done, they can be counted on to put their shoulder to the wheel. Guardians also believe in law and order, and sometimes worry that respect for authority, even a fundamental sense of right and wrong, is being lost. Perhaps this is why Guardians honor customs and traditions so strongly — they are familiar patterns that help bring stability to our modern, fast-paced world. [Please Understand Me II]
Norma Jean was soon discovered by a photographer, where she became a model, then got small parts in the movies. With her stage name in place, the Performer Artisan, Marilyn (Norma Jeane) finally hit it big with singing “Diamonds are a Girls Best Friend” in the comedy, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes.
James: “Norma Jeane was always a butterfly. She was beautiful all of her life, within and without. During our courtship and marriage, I never stopped loving to be with her, to stare at her, to laugh with and love her. We had a wonderful, joyful marriage. But in the end, it was not enough for Norma Jeane. Like all beautiful butterflies, she had to fly away.”
“My marriage didn’t make me sad, but it didn’t make me happy either. My husband and I hardly spoke to each other. This wasn’t because we were angry. We had nothing to say. I was dying of boredom.” — Marilyn Monroe (Norma Jean Baker)
Lee Strasberg commented, “I have worked with hundreds and hundreds of actors and actresses, and there are only two that stand out way above the rest. Number one is Marlon Brando, and the second is Marilyn Monroe.”
Joseph Paul “Joe” DiMaggio, Crafter Artisan, (/dɨˈmɑːʒioʊ/ or /dɨˈmædʒioʊ/; November 25, 1914 – March 8, 1999), born Giuseppe Paolo DiMaggio, nicknamed “Joltin’ Joe” and “The Yankee Clipper”, was an American Major League Baseball center fielder who played his entire 13-year career for the New York Yankees. He is perhaps best known for his 56-game hitting streak (May 15 – July 16, 1941), a record that still stands. [Wikipedia, revised]
Marilyn Monroe and Joe DiMaggio, both Artisans had a conflict in careers. Joe, a man’s man, from a hard working traditional Italian culture, where a woman was a traditional homemaker, couldn’t reconcile Marilyn ambition of being an actress. Their marriage lasted only little over a year.
According to her autobiography, Marilyn Monroe originally did not want to meet DiMaggio, fearing that he was a stereotypical arrogant athlete. They eloped at San Francisco City Hall on January 14, 1954.
“But all was not rosy. Joe was then 39, and Marilyn, 27, and there was a growing disharmony in their temperaments. Joe had been through his baseball career and he was tired of publicity, while Marilyn was thriving on it. Joe was intolerant of tardiness, while Marilyn was always late. In a much repeated story, Marilyn appeared before some 10,000 troops in Korean to entertain and later exclaimed to Joe: ‘You never heard such cheering!’ and Joe replied, ‘Yes, I have.'”
DiMaggio biographer Richard Ben Cramer asserts that their marriage was filled with “violence”. One typical forceful incident occurred immediately after the skirt-blowing scene in The Seven Year Itch which was filmed on September 14, 1954, in front of Manhattan’s Trans-Lux 52nd Street Theater. Then-20th Century Fox’s East Coast correspondent Bill Kobrin told the Palm Springs Desert Sun that it was Billy Wilder’s idea to turn the shoot into a media circus. The couple then had a “yelling battle” in the theater lobby. A month later, she filed for divorce on grounds of mental cruelty 274 days after the wedding.
Artisan-Artisan: Artisans have a considerably better time of it mating with other Artisans. Two SPs [Artisans] live primarily in the same world, the world of external, physical reality, speaking the same language of concrete objects, and they also share each other’s childlike love of fun and excitement. Two SPs [Artisans] have so many interests and activities in common — travel, sports, parties, shows, clothes, and so on — that they can come together as playmates in a way not possible with persons of other temperament. The only problem is that, with both partners living and playing so hard — going so fast in the same direction — they can quickly exhaust each other and lose interest. This pattern of two Artisans lighting up the sky brightly and then burning out and falling apart is a familiar one. [Please Understand Me II]
DiMaggio re-entered Monroe’s life as her marriage to Arthur Miller was ending. On February 10, 1961, he secured her release from Payne Whitney Psychiatric Clinic. She joined him in Florida where he was a batting coach for the Yankees. Their “just friends” claim did not stop remarriage rumors from flying.
According to Maury Allen’s biography, DiMaggio was alarmed at how Monroe had fallen in with people he felt detrimental to her well-being. Val Monette, owner of a military post-exchange supply company, told Allen that DiMaggio left his employ on August 1, 1962 because he had decided to ask Monroe to remarry him. She was found dead on August 5. DiMaggio’s son had spoken to Monroe on the phone the night of her death and claimed that she seemed fine. Her death was deemed a probable suicide, but has been the subject of numerous conspiracy theories. Devastated, DiMaggio claimed her body and arranged her funeral, barring Hollywood’s elite. He had a half-dozen red roses delivered three times a week to her crypt for 20 years. He refused to talk about her publicly or otherwise exploit their relationship. He never married again. [Wikipedia, revised]
Where have you gone, Joe DiMaggio
A nation turns it’s lonely eyes to you (Woo, woo, woo)
What’s that you say, Mrs. Robinson
Joltin’ Joe has left and gone away
(Hey, hey, hey…hey, hey, hey)
Mrs Robinson — Simon and Garfunkel
“Paul Simon … explained that the line was meant as a sincere tribute to DiMaggio’s unpretentious heroic stature, in a time when popular culture magnifies and distorts how we perceive our heroes. He further reflected: “In these days of Presidential transgressions and apologies and prime-time interviews about private sexual matters, we grieve for Joe DiMaggio and mourn the loss of his grace and dignity, his fierce sense of privacy, his fidelity to the memory of his wife and the power of his silence.”
Niagara, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, How to Marry a Millionaire, Seven Year Itch, Bus Stop, Some Like it Hot, Misfits are some of the highlighted movies that Marilyn Monroe starred in. And course, she helped Playboy’s debut issue become a success, with her nude photos.